In brief
When dividing assets during a divorce, it is determined who is entitled to which part of the joint assets, based on the matrimonial property regime or the form of cohabitation.
- The reference date determines which assets are included in the division; this is usually the date on which the divorce petition was filed.
- Assets and debts must be valued based on current information, such as an appraisal report or bank statements.
- In the case of an owner-occupied home, it must be determined who will keep the property or whether the property will be sold; each scenario requires different legal steps.
- Home equity, buyouts, and the amount of the mortgage are linked to the financial capacity of the partner remaining in the home.
Inheritances and gifts may fall outside the division if an exclusion clause applies.
What is included in the assets to be divided?
The assets to be divided generally include all assets and debts that fall under the community of property. Think of:
- the matrimonial home and mortgage
- bank and savings accounts
- investments or valuable assets
- debts and personal loans
- pension rights (treated separately under /family-law/divorce/pension/)
This may be different in the case of prenuptial agreements or a registered partnership with exclusion clauses. Depending on the agreements and circumstances, the court assesses whether certain asset components must be settled. This is general information, not individual legal advice.
The home during divorce: owner-occupied, rental, or sale
For many couples, the home is the most important part of the division.
There are three main options:
- One partner remains in the home
- The other is bought out or released from joint and several liability.
- A current appraisal is necessary to determine the home equity.
- The home is sold
- The sale proceeds are used to pay off the mortgage.
- Any home equity is shared according to the rules of division.
- The home is retained temporarily
- Sometimes the sale is postponed, for example, pending financing or when there are children involved.
- Clear agreements regarding costs and risks are then important.
Rental properties also require attention. In many cases, the court can determine who retains the tenancy rights, depending on income, childcare, and personal circumstances.
Read more at:
- Owner-occupied home during divorce
- Home equity and buyouts
- Ex-partner refuses to cooperate with the sale of the home
- New home after divorce
Home equity, buyout, and mortgage
The home equity arises when the sale value of the home is higher than the remaining mortgage debt.
In a buyout, the departing partner is paid their share of the equity by the other. Three factors play a role in this:
- The current market value (often established via appraisal).
- The remaining mortgage and any additional debts.
- The financial capacity of the person who wishes to stay.
A new mortgage or refinancing may be necessary. Banks then often request the divorce settlement agreement and a recent appraisal. In many cases, the bank – not the court – assesses whether it is financially feasible to remain in the home.
Step-by-step plan for the division of assets
1. Inventory
Jointly map out all assets, debts, and properties.
2. Reference date
Determine the date on which the assets are assessed. This is often the day the petition for divorce was filed.
3. Valuation
Have the home appraised and determine the current values of other asset components.
4. Agreements
Discuss whether one of you will take over the home or if a sale is preferred. Make decisions regarding division, settlement, and any rights to reimbursement.
5. Documentation
Record the agreements made in a divorce settlement agreement or in a deed of division at the notary.
6. Execution
Execute the agreements: transfer of the home, adjustment of the mortgage, and financial settlement.
After the division of assets, agreements regarding alimony or other financial obligations often remain.
You can find more information on our page about alimony during divorce.
Pitfalls and evidence
Many misunderstandings arise due to unclear reference dates or missing evidence.
Please note:
- an old appraisal can lead to an incorrect valuation;
- not all debts have been shared;
- in the case of inheritances or gifts, an exclusion clause is decisive;
- agreements regarding alimony have been forgotten.
You can find more information on our page about alimony during divorce; - Does one of you own assets or real estate abroad? If so, international family law may apply.
Read more about international family law and the division of assets.
Therefore, ensure that you carefully collect all documents: appraisals, mortgage statements, bank accounts, and proof of inheritances or gifts.
International aspects of the division of assets
In some situations, assets or real estate abroad are involved, such as a second home, foreign account, or investment. In that case, international family law may be decisive for the division.
In many cases, the court assesses which law applies based on place of residence, nationality, or the location of the assets.
Would you like to know which rules apply when (one of) you lives or works abroad?
Read more about international family law and the division of assets.
Our lawyers ensure that your agreements regarding the home and assets are legally correctly documented.
Schedule an appointment with us.
Practical examples
1. Buyout after value increase
A client wanted to remain in the home after house prices had risen. With a current appraisal and refinancing, the other partner could be correctly bought out.
2. Right to reimbursement for a gift
In another case, a gift from parents was involved. Because an exclusion clause applied, the amount fell outside the division.
3. International divorce
In an expat family, Dutch law applied to the home, while the other assets were invested abroad. The court applied the rules of division according to Brussels II-ter.
Our Attorneys at Law
At Simmelink Lawyers, you work with lawyers specialized in family law, international family law, and inheritance law. We work intensively together on solutions that are legally sound and do personal justice to your situation.

Carla Simmelink – Family Law Attorney, International Family Law and Inheritance Law
Family Law Attorney, International Family Law and Inheritance Law

Valerie Lingg – Family Law Attorney, International Family Law
Family Law Attorney, International Family Law

Eva Zaunbrecher-Boschloo – Family Law Attorney, International Family Law
Lawyer at Law (International) Family Law
Clients are guided by a dedicated lawyer who oversees the entire file and communicates discreetly.
Frequently Asked Questions
In many cases, the day the divorce petition was filed serves as the reference date. For unmarried cohabitants, this depends on the agreements made.
Often via an independent appraisal. The value on the reference date is leading, unless you agree otherwise.
Home equity is usually shared according to the community of property or the agreed settlement clause. A residual debt is divided in the same way.
If an exclusion clause applies, these remain outside the division. Without such a clause, a settlement may be required.
In that case, a request can be made through the court or a notary for cooperation with the sale or adjustment of the ownership structure. This is general information, not individual advice.




